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Tantra sex for ejaculation control and tantra techniques for erectile dysfunction.
Extract from “Tantra Secrets for Men,’ copyright Random
House 1995. Author Kerry and Diane Riley Directors Australian School of
Tantra , offers tantra courses in Tantra massage for men, Tantra
massage for women, tantra massage for couples. And Tantra Sex Secrets
for all common concerns around sexuality and relationships beyond
tantra massage there are Tantra skills that make you a better lover,
all taught at the Australian School of Tantra, including Tantra Teacher
training and Tantra Goddess sessions.
Tantra has proven methods to master ejaculation control. Sexually, men
face two major difficulties throughout their lives. Tantra provides a
solution. Tantra technique one is helpful for, being able to last
long enough to satisfy a woman, or even satisfy yourself. After weeks
of anticipation, it is often all over in a few minutes. Do you remember
those times? Or are you still in the position of sometimes not lasting
as long as you would like? What an embarrassment it is for a man of any
age to ejaculate too soon. Not a happy memory.
Tantra is important for your women because if you ejaculate too soon
she is left feeling frustrated and sometimes angry. Even though she
might not say so or show it, she feels it. Not good times for a man of
any age. I would rate ejaculating before you want to, high on any man's
private list of embarrassing times.
Tantra offers you something to do about it. The first step is to
acknowledge it to yourself. Remember, you are not the only man who
faces this difficulty.
The second major difficulty is: at some stage in your later years, you
will no longer come too soon, but you won't come at all. You won't be
able to get an erection and suffer erectile dysfunction or if you do,
it certainly won't stand up as straight and hard as it used to. Very
often your woman's sexual energy has increased because most women reach
their sexual prime when they are over forty. There is the opportunity
for sex, but you can't do anything about it because your sexual energy
is not as strong. If you do get an erection and ejaculate, instead of
the mind-blowing explosion it used to be, it barely trickles out. It's
more like a squeak than a roar. If you haven't experienced this yet, I
guarantee that at some stage it will happen.
However there is something you can do about it, as it is not
necessarily a part of ageing. These major difficulties can be overcome
through learning the essential techniques of ejaculation control and
erection strengthening.
I'd like to share with you two typical stories of men who participated
in our workshops. One was Luke, 18, and the other was Rob, in his late
fifties.
Luke's story:
'When I was about fifteen, I was so sexually charged I didn't actually
think about much else. Even the movement of the school bus gave me an
erection. I'd be putting my books or my jumper over it, worrying that I
would still have it when I was getting off the bus.
'Later on when I started meeting women, we would cuddle and carry on in
the back seat of the car or wherever we were, and I'd be so hot that by
the time I touched her vagina, I'd be too excited to enter, or if I did
enter it would be all over too quickly. Sure enough it wouldn't be long
before I became erect again, but the second time was never as good and
the third time was even worse. I never told anyone this was happening,
so it was a great relief to talk about it in Kerry's workshop where he
first introduced me to these techniques.
'I practised them by myself. It was great that there were practices
that I could do without a woman, because I wasn't always in a
relationship. Then I practised with a girlfriend. It took some time but
I persisted, and my girlfriend had her first orgasm. She admitted she
had been pretending in the past, but this time she'd actually 'come'
and it made me feel great.'
Rob's story:
'After I turned forty, I noticed my desire for sex wasn't as strong as
it used to be. After I turned fifty, my erections were certainly not as
strong and yet my wife's sexual energy was increasing. I found that I
was staying away from home a lot of the time. I played more golf than
ever before and came home late from work. I was either consciously or
subconsciously afraid of not being able to fulfil her sexual needs.'
'I noticed that after she turned forty, she became an angry, nagging
woman and we continually argued about all sorts of things. Now I see it
was her frustration about not being sexually satisfied. I'm sure it was
to do with that, because since I've learnt these techniques and she is
getting sexual satisfaction, she is much easier to live with. I'm
retired now and we make love sometimes three times a day.
'I didn't realise there were so many men out there who are secretly
unhappy because they aren't satisfying their women the way they used
to. I also didn't realise there are so many frustrated women out there,
so many angry women, not getting what they need, all because of the
lack of education in the art of lovemaking. I wish I'd had more sexual
education when I was young. In my youth I wasn't even aware that women
had orgasms. I'm really glad that I have much more sexual knowledge
now.'
Luke and Rob's stories are typical of many of the people with whom
Diane and I have worked. With them we have shared many different sexual
secrets. Although the skill of ejaculation control is not all there is
to lovemaking, it's vital to getting what you or your beloved want from
making love. There is a prevailing view that skill isn't what
lovemaking is all about. But if you don't have the skill, how can you
experience something new? If you don't know how to peel an orange, you
will never taste the sweetness the orange has to offer. Without skill
and control over your ejaculation, you will never experience the
pleasure that lovemaking has to offer.
Of the teachers I have met who are trained in these skills and of the
students I have taught, each has expressed to me the deep satisfaction
it gives them to be able to choose when to ejaculate and when not to.
You might doubt that it is possible to make love as long as you like
and at any stage. I too was sceptical when I was first introduced to
this possibility, but my experience at forty-five is that my erection
is as strong as it was when I was eighteen. I make love as many times
as I wish and feel energised after the lovemaking. When I do choose to
ejaculate, not only is it as powerful as when I was eighteen, but I
also experience multiple orgasms.
Even though I was extremely virile as a teenager, I never experienced
that! The beauty is that any man with the desire and persistence to
practise, can develop these techniques, no matter what his age.
Although different problems occur at different ages, the techniques
achieve the same results the experience of better lovemaking than you
ever dreamed possible.
Tantra techniques revolve around strengthening the PC muscle,
breathing practices and learning the skill of valley orgasm; the
ability to orgasm without loosing ejaculation, this way you can make
love as many times as you wish.
The strength of your erection and your ability to last as long as you
want without ejaculation is not all that lovemaking is about. This
skill alone does not guarantee you'll be a success in bed. The ability
to feel love and intimacy and express these feelings with sensitivity
and passion is also what being a good lover is about. Men who are able
to feel their love and share these deep feelings will never have a
shortage of women in their lives.
Extract from ‘Tantra Secrets for Men’ by Kerry Riley
Copyright Random House 1995.
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